People ask me of ways to get rid of negativity, negative thoughts and emotions. In yog, we do not consider things as negative or positive. Negative and positive are both inside you. As per Ayurveda, the body is made of three doshas. 'Dosha' translates as a defect or an impurity. That is, the body itself is impure. There is no negative or positive because everything around you, everything physical, is bound by time. It is bound to end, and the time for it to end is decided the moment you get it, irrespective of whether that thing is good or bad. So if you get something 'good', be assured that you will have to bear the pain of losing it as well, the dearer the thing is to you, the greater will be the pain. Then tell me, what is good and what is bad?
The biggest pain is not in losing something but in getting something which is dear to you. Warren Buffet, an expert on property, once made a statement that you make a profit or loss the day you purchase a property, not on the day you sell it. In the same way when you get a thing, whatever that might be, that day itself it is decided how much loss you will have to bear (gain is out of question). The dearer a thing is to you, the more expensive it proves to be, as that much more pain it will cause you. One usually terms not getting something they want or emotions of jealousy and anger, once again arising out of things not turning out the way they desired as negative, now tell me, is that negative or getting what you want is negative?
The day you get something, that day itself the pain that comes with it is also decided. Similarly the day you take the body, the doshas that come along with it are also determined because the meaning of body is that which is dooshit.
Just look at the world around, tell me one thing that is worth doing or living for. Think about it practically. There is a friend whom I have known for over 25 years now. He lives in a posh colony of Delhi, has assets worth lifetime-savings of several people combined, and still he still gets worked up over delay in payments worth a few thousand rupees. Long back I tried to put some sense into him, his reply was, "I live to earn. What is the use of living if a person is not making money? Till the time there is life in me, I will earn." I then asked him if death scared him. He said, "when you die, everything gets over. I have fallen unconscious. When you are unconscious, you do not know what is happening around you. At that time everything is over. Death is also similar." I just smiled at him back then. Being unconscious is not the same as dying, as then you are still in the body. This person is a heart patient. Doctors have told him many a times to get a bypass surgery done, but he insists that nothing can happen to him till the time he is earning. Recently, he suffered a heart attack and had a near-death experience. He told me, "I have seen the reality of life. I could hear the doctors saying that it is unlikely that I would survive." Then he described various things he saw from his life. I reminded him of what he used to say earlier about dying. He said, "No! No! This is the reality." I then asked if he still worries about the payment of his fees. Immediately he replied, "Oh that is what I live for!"
This is a very serious issue. Even after that near-death experience this person's attachment for money did not lessen, not even by a fraction. So what is positive then? For him, money is positive. Even after getting gyan, he is still an agyani. He still sees reality in that money. He is not concerned with anything else. This is what I mean when I say that body is a dosh, an impurity. Only a Guru can make you experience your gyan and take you beyond. If he would have had a Guru then he would have gone beyond and not desired physical experience after such a profound experience of the real world. For a person who is in touch with reality, what is there to do here? The more money you earn, the more you will tie yourself to the bandhan of maya. The bigger the car you buy, the more troubled you will be that no one should scratch it. Whatever you do, what will you gain out of it? What you will lose, let me tell you, are those precious years which you could have used to reach somewhere, which you are wasting in pursuit of physical and temporary things. I am not foolish that at the age of 50 I am saying, "I have done what I had to do, now no more." There is a reason for it. Dosh. The body is a dosh. If there was no dosh, there would be no body.
Let me tell you something about Ramakrishna Paramhansa. He was very fond of eating and would ask his wife to prepare different kinds of delicacies for him. One day his wife asked him, "You give lengthy discourses on eating less, eating satvik food, observing fasts and that how these are all bandhans. Then why do you indulge in such foods?" His reply came, "There is so much tej in my soul that it is unable to stay in this dooshit body. By eating all these foods, I have to forcibly live in this body because my time to go has not come as yet, there are still some unfinished tasks that I need to complete." He also told her that the day he stops eating, three days from then, he would leave his body. And that is exactly how it happened. The day he stopped eating, people knew he was about to go and third day from then, he left the body.
I have not reached that state yet, but whatever my present state, even I have to make efforts to stay in the body, otherwise I feel like getting out of here as fast as possible. Some of you have seen the way I look after I get up from dhyan. And those of you who have seen, have noticed how it seems like a completely different state and person. That person cannot stay in this body, in this environment, unless he forcibly puts some impurities in him. I cannot leave this environment, because as a Yog Guru, quite a few of my tasks still remain to be done. So to make myself stay here I have to do certain things. Initially when I heard this story of Ramakrishna Paramhansa, I could not understand it and thought that he was justifying himself. But as I have gone deeper into sadhna, I can relate to it. Even as I say this, there would many who would think that I am justifying, but then each one has his/her own state and will think according to that only, so it is ok.
When there is dosh in the body, only then can the soul stay in the body. If the body becomes pure then the soul will not stay in the body. How can the soul stay in that body? When there is no dosh, then what will you eat and drink and if you do not eat or drink, then what is the use of living? So because there are doshas in the body, that is why this body is there. The people who are most evolved are the ones who induce maximum dosh in their body. If you go to the higher reaches of the Himalayas, you will find sadhus who smoke chillum from morning to night. And then comes a state when they leave the intoxication completely and move on. That dosh in the body is necessary for the soul to stay in the body, otherwise there is so much tej or glow that the soul is unable to stay in that body.
I cannot teach you techniques to drive away negative thoughts. You can learn these things from Gurus who come on television and give upays for everything under the sun - to ward off negativity, to make more money, to cure diseases, to pass an exam, to have a kid etc. Recently someone narrated an incident to me where a religious person would reveal questions to his friend because of which he cleared his charted accountancy papers. All these are physical things, which are temporary and bound to leave. The person who has become a chartered accountant, his job would leave him one day, the child who is born will also leave one day. In my understanding there is no bigger foolishness than to get something in the physical if you are walking with me. I am talking only of myself - the form of yog that I practice. In that form, to get something in the physical or to show off what you have in the physical is nothing but foolishness. Who are you showing off to? Who are you fooling? Only yourself, noone else.
A person in the foundation has properties in six cities and still he is worried about money and finances. He keeps planning how to invest his money and this is when he has crossed the age of 60. His planning never finishes. One day the husband-wife drove down from Punjab to meet me. I told them to sell as much property as is their requirement and live peacefully. Instantly the question came, "What will we give to our son?" I just turned my face and walked off. It is important to understand that if you want to walk the path of sthool, then there is no point of coming to me. "What will we do, what will our son do, then what will our grandson do?" There is no limit to that. Body is dosh and you can go on immersing yourself in that dosh as much as you want, but nothing will happen from that. The day you get something, the fear of losing it will set inside you, and the day it will leave you, you will be in a bad state. The marg of yog and vairagya has everything in it. It is not the marg of beggars. This marg has vaibhav, aishwarya, health, it has everything. That is why I never ask anyone to leave anything, 'do not to eat this or do not drink that', have I ever told anyone this? In fact I tell you that if you are doing something, do more of it. But I also tell you to keep walking with me. If you walk with me, then that thing will stop affecting you. But if you are not walking with me then that thing will get a hold of you, choke you and you will leave the path of yog not even realising that you have left, falsely thinking that you are playing out your desires and enjoying life. A yogi never falls ill, he never faces abhav of anything, he does not have any kasht, if he is walking the marg of yog. But if due to any reason he wanders from the path of yog, like Ramakrishnaji had said sometimes certain things have to be done just to stay here, then there is lot of kasht.
So there is nothing right or wrong, positive or negative, walk on the path of yog and evolve. The signs of evolution are clear. You stop falling sick, time passes very quickly, levels of detachment increase, that is, you stop getting hurt. Fulfilment of desires is not evolution, it is a sign of going down. When a desire gets fulfilled, it is a pleasure and with every pleasure there is pain. Bhog and rog both move hand in hand. There is no bhog without a rog as there is a balance in creation. The more you go into bhog, the more rog will strike you and rog can strike from anywhere in any form. Yog is a marg of pure anand, but for that you have to walk the path (and not be a spectator and watch it from a distance, as then you will not understand). It is a path of experience. When you evolve in yog, it means you are having experiences. When there is progression in yog, then you start having experiences of the subtler dimensions, subtler worlds and these experiences tell you that you are moving on the right path. But along with that another thing happens…When you start having interactions with devis and devtas, then greed inside you starts increasing. When you get the darshan of a dev or devi, then you start asking for something or the other from them. That is an indication of a fall. Whenever you have an experience of devlok, then along with that experience you need to watch your physical life as well. Is your interaction with your Guru increasing or decreasing? If the time you are spending with your Guru is decreasing and you are getting experiences of the subtler dimensions, then they are not actual experiences of the subtler world, but your mind playing tricks on you. Mind is a very powerful entity, it shows you very strange things, it can even show you things that do not exist. And you think, you have reached great heights. It is just the mind playing tricks. Experience and moving inwards happens simultaneously and the indication of moving inwards is spending time with your Guru. Just see for yourself, are you able to interact with your Guru, can you understand what he is talking about? Do you want to be with him/her all the time? Any normal person who comes at the ashram, cannot bear me for more than 10 minutes because there is so much energy clash that they are not able to understand what I am saying.
Many of you who are new, will not be able to understand what you are going to get by following this path. If you could understand what you are going to get from this, then you would not be sitting on that side, rather you would be sitting in my place. You do not have the slightest of idea of the anubhootis of yog. And something which you have no idea about, can you comment on that? Wait for your experience. When you get experiences and you get closer to your Guru and you move inwards, then that is an indication that you are moving on the right path. A Guru is not someone who talks but someone who has given you experiences. If you have had your experience then you have a Guru, if not, then an impersonator. And when you start seeing your Guru as your enemy, then that is an indication that you are now under the control of black forces. In creation there is positive and negative, there are black forces and white forces, darkness and light, they go hand in hand. Whichever force you are under the influence of, your mind will show you that reality only. As soon as a person comes under the influence of evil forces, the first thing that the person does is to cut the connection with his Guru and with the positive forces; as a result he comes in darkness and starts understanding that darkness as the reality only. He starts thinking of this mayalok as the reality and keeps getting sucked into it. And then he can be very easily influenced. These are some indications of moving in the direction diametrically opposite to evolution. On the other hand, if you are having experiences, you are interacting with the devs and simultaneously you are going inwards or spending more time with your Guru, then you are moving in the right direction.
When you ask your Guru for upays to get something then remember that that thing will definitely leave you someday. Like somebody told me, about a close relative who was 72 years old and in perfect state of health till he lost his wife in the Kedarnath tragedy. After that he went into depression and isolation, and within a month he too passed away. When she had come in his life there was so much happiness that when she left he could not take the shock and left the body. That is exactly what I am trying to make you understand, when you get something there is a lot of joy but when it leaves you there is immense sorrow. All the problems, pains and diseases in your life stem from the fear of losing something - a relationship or an asset or health. For a beautiful woman, her worst fear is a pimple on the face. It might seem foolish to you and me, but for her it is a mortal fear. It is serious issue.
Our bodies are so full of doshas that we waste our lives in unreality and forget our journey. There are many in the foundation who are over 60-70 years of age and still attached to their businesses and possessions. I have asked them many a times that till when they plan to continue like this. Every five years they ask for five more years of all this, and their five years never come to an end. They never will. You people talk to me and forget, but I remember each incident, every dialogue, every email that you send me. You might feel that I might have forgotten what you had said, but be assured I never forget anything. I just wait for the right time. Like last month, I had asked who is willing to do what I ask them to do and change completely, there was one person who raised his hand. 26 days after, he received a call from the Foundation, and he was asked to perform a task. His reply was, "I am too busy for all this." He forgot the interaction he had but I never forget anything. All over the world the people who are connected to me or who try and keep a connection with me, I maintain a continuous teaching process with them and for them it is a continuous learning process. I never forget anything, I just watch and see that if you have asked for something and if you are made to get that by requesting to the Divine, then how much loss would it cause you, what will you have to go through after that. You people casually ask me and forget. But do not forget in each of you I see a potential shishya because till now I do not have even one shishya. Everyone when they reach that stage/step, they fail. They fail because a deep-rooted desire manifests and takes them away. That is why there is not even one shishya, because I do not forget, but they forget. You ask and forget but I cannot sleep at night until I get an answer to that. I have to get the answer. I have to have the clarity of that completely, if I do not give answers to any of your mails, I have my reasons for doing that.
When you enter into yog, you get a Guru with much difficulty and after many strong karmas. Then after that if you leave the path shown to you and move against the Guru, it is considered the greatest paap. Of the grave paaps listed in the vedic sutras, the biggest is' 'Guru droh'. Second is 'brahm hatya' and third is gau hatya. These are the three basic paaps which have been mentioned. Even arguing with Guru, is considered droh, even an avaidtark (inappropriate argument) with a gyani is considered brahmhatya and even turning your face away from a cow being slaughtered is considered gauhatya. One has to bear severe consequences for these acts. All of you are very fortunate to get this gyan, do not waste it in useless upays. I know what I am saying. I know my responsibility. I never move back from my responsibilities towards anyone. But I do not find anyone who can shoulder even a fraction of my responsibility. If I even touch anyone slightly, their body cannot take it, it revolts.
The marg of yog is the marg of pure shakti. This is the marg of anand, it has everything, you do not have to leave anything. And it is the marg of evolution, it is the marg of direct interaction with the devs and devis, it is a marg of moving inwards. Sadhna of yog is antarang, not bahurang. It is sadhna of within, it involves changes within, it is the marg of moksha. And on this path one does not fall ill, one is not in kasht, and one can never remain vanchit of anything. If you are wavering from the Guru's path, then you are doing Guru droh, while there is time take hold of yourself. If you do not, you will have to bear extreme pain. Do not think of your Guru as a body. When you connect with your Guru in dhyan, you will get an abhas of his shakti, you will get a specific sensation. Do not relate it to the sthool because you must understand, it is not a relationship that I have with you, it is a merger. But even merger has different levels. There are various distances on which mergers take place because it is a collective consciousness. There is a different kind of happiness for each kind of merger. The closer you come, the more the happiness. But the closer you come, the more the danger of you going away. Because when you come close, it means you are moving towards evolution and at that time, the negative forces will try to pull you back. That is the time when you have to have complete faith.
If you have your Guru with you nothing can go wrong, but the Guru should not be for this reason that nothing should go wrong with me. Evolution should be the prime target. And I have discussed the indications of evolution - experiences of the subtle worlds and going inwards and coming closer to your Guru and which translates as joy simultaneously. If there is stress and tension and you are having experiences still that means you are going away from your Guru and those experiences are only of the mind. Mind is playing tricks on you. Take it like this, that your body is a vehicle and you have to travel from here to there. I am the mechanic of your vehicle. It is my responsibility to see the vehicle reaches from here to there, all you need to know are the controls of the vehicle. This is how the car moves, this is how it stops, this is how brakes are applied, this is how it moves forward and backward, this is all there is to know. It is as simple as that because you have travel. It is my problem to keep the vehicle in a good condition, I have to ensure that the path for you becomes smooth - that is my job, not your job. You have to trust the mechanic; you have to have the confidence in the mechanic.
One of the biggest problems of walking with me is that people do not understand what I talk. And the other problem is that when you merge with me, you start getting experiences and when you start getting experiences, the negative energies start to pull you downward. If at that time you are not firmly connected with me, then you leave me. So understand that coming closer to me means danger, so tune in yourself accordingly and be prepared. This specifically applies to people doing martial arts with me as it involves physical contact and being in my close proximity, because of which chances of going away from me become manifold. When you come close to me your inherent desires start dissolving and a fear develops inside you that you are going to lose all this. At that time you are unable to understand the source of that fear, and because of that fear, you find some reason or justification to run away, which is called Guru droh. So take your time, do not be in a hurry to come close to me (by me, I mean, your Guru who could be anyone and the path of yog). Go by your experiences, do not go by my words. Your experiences will tell you…and your state of mind. I know what you want but you do not. I know where you have come from, where you were born, which path you are on, I am a Yog Guru. If I do not know all this then you are wasting your time with me and I am wasting my time with you. And I do not have time to waste at all as there is very little time left for my public interactions. So leave that to me. I know your path. Experiences will guide you automatically, but when the experiences happen then at that time you need to be very careful as that is the time there is maximum danger of you losing the path.
Let me share another story with you. A lady left her job in the US, when her salary was one lakh pounds. She left that and came to India to search, what? I am still trying to understand. She started yog and started having experiences one after the other. When she started having experiences she started getting things she wanted. Then one day an old lady came in front of her and told her, "I am maya. From today I will take care of you." She came to me very happily and told me about this. I told her that she should become alert now, as time for her to go has come now. I told her to be careful because whoever gets blessed by maya does not last for long, unless they have held their Guru's hand very tight. After this the ups that came in her life were phenomenal. Maya was true to her word but when maya keeps her hand on someone's head then she will also take something away. It happened. She slipped and left my hand. The day she left, she categorically announced, "I do not even know you, remove my name immediately from here." That day the purpose for which maya had come was complete. And since that day, the state of that lady started deteriorating. Today she asks me that can the Guru not save you in that situation. Well, for that you need to have a Guru as well. If you abuse the Guru and call him incompetent and that too after having your share of experiences, then what can be done? Maya has its own role. If it gives you something, then it also entangles you in it. And the time you come back to your senses is when you are left with nothing, when everything is finishing. But in my thinking, this too is a good state because then you just have marg of moksha and so you can forget everything and just walk that path. Because only that is reality, and one day you will realize this. Today you may not be able to understand it and find it a joke. That lady should be grateful to maya because this is the reality and she has put her on the right, real path now and she will see herself where she will reach now provided she walks that path without dilutions.
You can never understand me. I have not been able to understand myself till now. Why I do certain things, even I do not know, and yet I do them. So just go by experiences. It is the connection which guides you, it is very important to form that connection. The person who referred a lady from Europe to get into yog, who has had some amazing experiences to me, today is furthest away from yog. His father is sitting here in this room only. That gentleman came to me in a condition where he could not walk. He was a total mess financially and physically. The day he excelled in everything, that day he left. That very day he left and the father's attachment to him is so much that he could not even explain this to him because I wrote a mail to the father 2-3 months back, asking him to explain to his son, the father did not even reply to me. This time when the son came to India, he called me seven to eight times. Normally I would reply, but this time I did not even feel like speakingto him. You must understand the reason. If you take one step away from me I am going to take ten steps away from you. You take one step towards me and I will take ten steps towards you. 'Me' is not the body, do not ever take me to be the body. By me, I mean yog. You have to walk that path to be anywhere around me or close to me. You have to be walking that path, there is no other way to reach me. Dilution of thought takes you away from the path and your Guru. Do not let your thought get diluted, it is very important. When your thought gets diluted you will be miles away from me (or your Guru). You will not even realize, you will stop seeing me also. And dilution is, thinking of anything else but me (your Guru), it is an attachment.
Yog is the totality of creation. When you are with your Guru, there should be nothing else but him/her inside you. Whatever you are doing, the thought should be of the Guru all the time. Even if you are moving towards the physical but if your Guru is there in your mind all the time, then it is an experience which you desire and you will go over it very fast. But if you get your Guru out of your mind you will get stuck in the physical. This means that you are doing something in the physical thinking that you are with your Guru (when actually you are not), then if the Guru tells you to not do it, you are not able to leave it at that time. Do not fool yourself. Whatever you are doing has to be done while maintaining connection with the Guru. Even if you are eating, it has to be with the Guru only. Even if you are drinking, it has to be with the Guru; the Guru might or might not be there physically. That way you will form the connection which you have to form, there is no other way. You should always be connected because the difference is the bodies and the body is sthool, maya, the elements. To put it simply, the day you will hide something from your Guru, you will create a barrier.
There should be a complete barrier-less state between you and me (or your Guru). If you put a barrier then how will I see you or you see me? In healing sciences, you are taught to put a barrier between two entities when the objective is to cut connections between them. If you put a barrier between you and me, then there is no relationship/connection. So there should be no barrier. And I repeat, me here is your Guru, who could be anyone or anywhere. If you are not prepared for this, then do not ask me for ten steps, ask me for one or two, there you will not need me.